Sigma Males and Dual Lives
Hi, my name is Mark I Jacobson and I’m here with my good friend, Arian Black.
Now, Mark, you’ve had a long career as a writer and I’ve been performing magic all over the world.
I think between the two of us, we have definitely heard it all.
I remember one day we had a conversation about stupid things that people say.
Well, yeah, we did.
And we realized that there was a whole lot we could talk about because you know what?
People say a lot of stupid things.
Do a lot of stupid things, too.
Let’s talk about some of them.
But it’s just I don’t get it.
These people who create problems for themselves and then cry because it’s they’ve got a problem.
And you know, I mean, as people we have enough problems to begin with.
But it’s amazing how many of us create
More problems are bigger problems for ourselves.
And instead of just trying to fix the little ones or trying to address problems when they are small, you know, we don’t look at them until there’s such a huge issue that we can’t ignore them.
And then then we figure we either try to self-help.
Or we go out and try to find help.
for a problem that didn’t have to be there in the first place.
You know, I don’t… Well, you’ve known me for a while.
I don’t make big problems out of small problems.
I make small problems out of big problems.
In fact, I was watching a streamer the other day, and she brought up a phrase that I didn’t even know existed, but apparently I did some research, and it’s existed since about 2009, 2010.
and it’s called I just drew a blank.
It’s a it’s a it’s a description of a certain kind of male.
I just drew a blank.
I can’t believe at this instant.
Do you need to Google it?
Yeah, hang on.
I’m gonna I’m gonna put something in here and see if I can bring something up here.
It’s not a syncopatic.
I’ll think of it when we’re not talking.
This is driving me crazy.
But it describes a certain kind of male that everybody likes and people are jealous of at the same time because they’d like to be like that person.
But if the kind of person they want to be like that they’re jealous of, the person actually doesn’t care.
In other words, this person, while they’re sitting there making big deals about things, this is the person who sits down and calmly goes over the options and says, okay, well, this is what we have to do.
Or this is the person who doesn’t walk around bragging about everything because
The guy doesn’t think he has to Or the kind of person who doesn’t go out is not very outgoing.
But when he walks into a room he can Start interacting with people and they feel comfortable and there’s a name for it And I it occurred to me after she was describing it and I did some research that I’m it and I’ve never known I was I had a label and
you know, the alpha male is the kind of guy who says, Yeah, I’m all man all the time.
And I know men are and I know where women should be.
And, you know, I thought you didn’t like being labeled.
I didn’t like being labeled.
But I like this one.
This is very comfortable.
No, actually, I never knew.
How come now it’s gonna drive me crazy.
And by the way,
I hate people who are trying to think of something and then always say, now it’s going to drive me crazy.
Yeah, no, no, trust me, as I get older.
It happens to me.
No, but I mean, I know that as soon as you and I stop talking, it’s gonna hit me when I’m not thinking about it.
And then I’m gonna say, I’m gonna try to look it up here.
Well, don’t hang on.
It’s you realize, you know what we’re doing here?
Having a conversation?
And I think we should always I think we should we’re having a conversation.
And I think we should leave it in because I think this is kind of neat.
You know, I have senior moments.
But I think that as we get older, everybody
you know, finds themselves searching for words searching for and I don’t know if it’s just the fact of the brain aging or at a certain point, your brain is so full of shit.
Yeah, I’ve gotten through it.
See, I don’t think it’s a senior moment because I don’t think of myself.
I mean, I literally knew the word
10 seconds before I was going to say it, and I said, I want to tell her this.
And then I lost it, but I’m going to search for it differently.
But the fact of the matter is, I know that, you know, it’s the old thing, you know, you get, you only have a certain amount of information in your brain, you get one more thing, and something’s got to go.
That’s, that’s the way it is.
There’s only a certain amount of storage, and I’m not going to upgrade.
And as we get older, that storage gets, you know, limited.
But I’m going to I know I’m going to search on my because I actually posted it.
And what I’m going to do is I’m going to search through my posts and try to see if I can find what the because now it is because I literally was going to tell you about it.
I mean literally five seconds before I open my mouth.
Stupid Sht People Talk
It was funny.
I hate to say this because it’s going to sound very anti-woman or anti-marriage.
But I saw a cartoon.
I saw a cartoon and I posted it.
It’s, you know, the the old evolution cartoon of the fish crawling out of the water, going up on the beach, going up on the island.
This is when the fish is crawling out of the water.
He’s going up on dry land and in the water behind him is his wife going, Don’t you walk away when I’m talking to you.
And the caption is why evolution almost why evolution really got started.
So I happen to see that there and I had to had to post it.
But to anybody who’s listening, I am a product of the women in my there it is, I found it.
See, I knew how to find it.
I it is a Sigma male.
And I had never heard about a Sigma male.
But I have never heard of one either.
But when I started to look for it, all the traits that a Sigma male has, I have.
So you have self diagnosed is what you’re saying?
And I’ve come to inclusion and I’m in great shape.
It’s like me with self-help.
I do self-help for myself all the time.
Let me tell you, women love self-help.
And you’re right.
I mean, I should go to a professional for self-help, not do it myself.
You know, but if I went to a professional, I’d be telling them, but you know, let me tell you what I think.
If you want another, if you want a second opinion, I’ll just, you know, do I need a second opinion?
Yeah, if I’m talking to a professional, I’d say, you know, but let me give you a second opinion, because you know, you may be a little bit off.
So that would that probably wouldn’t work for me.
That probably wouldn’t.
No, it doesn’t work at all.
But yes, I am a Sigma male.
I am the guy who doesn’t care about the fast cars and doesn’t care about the expense of everything.
And it’s pretty calm all day long.
And, you know, pretty level headed.
Which, you know, here’s the thing.
I don’t care about fast cars.
Do I like cars?
Am I fascinated and really want an electric car?
Well, I mean, but see, that’s a toy.
And I’m a tech guy.
So to me, that would be a toy.
And when I worked on stage,
I had, you know, some really expensive, beautiful, you know, stuff like Dolce Gabbana and stuff.
But did I have it in my own real life?
And it’s funny, because for me, it’s like two lives.
I had on stage, which was this glamorous, you know, show business, yada, yada, yada.
And then, you know, off stage, I was like, sweatpants.
Yes, there you go.
There you go.
I mean, it’s like, and people see people don’t understand that the people they see and they go, wow.
Yeah, because I knew because I’ve known you a while.
And I know even off stage.
You walked around at home with a bird on your shoulder.
And all the sparkly clothes.
Of course I did.
I know that that was you.
You know, and, you know, people actually saw that and they realized that was you.
So, you know, that was you all the time, 24-7.
So, hey, thanks for listening to Stupid Things People Say.
Now it’s your turn to tell us about the stupid things people say.
And do, except that you switched the parts.
Oh, wait a minute, that was you.
I’m me, you’re you.
Got to remember that.
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But Mark, I gotta run.
I have Stupid Sht to do.
Well then, you do your Stupid Sht.
I’ll do my Stupid Sht.
And we’ll talk later.